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A full life
May. 24th, 2004 06:11 amI live a full life. I have many interests, and if I get unbalanced in one direction or another, I generally come back to my love of other subjects. It works for me-- I don't have the ability or desire to focus all the time on one thing. I love my life. I enjoy exploring all my different interests and like to surround myself with people who have their own interests and can share the variety of their life with me.
Problem-- I don't really know, maybe it's a lack of people my own age, but I haven't found many people that I can exchange with. I think I'm a little too forward about sharing my stuff and don't listen enough. Part of it is a language problem, part of it is a needy thing (I really want to find some friends). But even when I ask about the other person, they don't talk, or they don't have anything to talk about. I really like the stuff I'm into, and if I get started on a subject, I can go on for a bit. I like to hear people talk about stuff they love, and I don't get why people won't talk about their pet subjects with me. I wonder if it's a cultural thing.
I have found one Japanese friend who likes to talk to me about her pet subjects, and some of it is stuff I get, and some of it's not, but I really enjoy spending time with her. Unfortunately, one friend does not a social life make. I have made steps to make some friends at choir, and I'm hoping that Miwa sensei might become a friend.
Problem, part 2 -- I'm not used to people reacting to the amount of things I'm interested in so much. I'm proud of the fact that I enjoy my life, and I have many interests and talents. I don't know how to deal with it when people are so complimentary and amazed that I am who I am.
What happened today-- The music teacher wanted to hear me play the piano, so we went up, and well, she was extremely complimentary, and I mentioned that I sing (it's been fun to sing at the other schools), and I got going talking about singing and such, and my experience in music, and she talked about her experience, and she started going on about how I was more qualified to be a music teacher than she was, and whatever... The point is, this is not the first time I've gotten this reaction, and it's incredibly difficult to deal with it. I want to lessen the distance between me and my coworkers, and this reaction widens it. At the same time, I do have these skills, and I want to share them with the kids. I also don't want to pretend to be less than I am in social situations. I'm just working on how to handle it.
If any of you have had similar experiences, please share.
Problem-- I don't really know, maybe it's a lack of people my own age, but I haven't found many people that I can exchange with. I think I'm a little too forward about sharing my stuff and don't listen enough. Part of it is a language problem, part of it is a needy thing (I really want to find some friends). But even when I ask about the other person, they don't talk, or they don't have anything to talk about. I really like the stuff I'm into, and if I get started on a subject, I can go on for a bit. I like to hear people talk about stuff they love, and I don't get why people won't talk about their pet subjects with me. I wonder if it's a cultural thing.
I have found one Japanese friend who likes to talk to me about her pet subjects, and some of it is stuff I get, and some of it's not, but I really enjoy spending time with her. Unfortunately, one friend does not a social life make. I have made steps to make some friends at choir, and I'm hoping that Miwa sensei might become a friend.
Problem, part 2 -- I'm not used to people reacting to the amount of things I'm interested in so much. I'm proud of the fact that I enjoy my life, and I have many interests and talents. I don't know how to deal with it when people are so complimentary and amazed that I am who I am.
What happened today-- The music teacher wanted to hear me play the piano, so we went up, and well, she was extremely complimentary, and I mentioned that I sing (it's been fun to sing at the other schools), and I got going talking about singing and such, and my experience in music, and she talked about her experience, and she started going on about how I was more qualified to be a music teacher than she was, and whatever... The point is, this is not the first time I've gotten this reaction, and it's incredibly difficult to deal with it. I want to lessen the distance between me and my coworkers, and this reaction widens it. At the same time, I do have these skills, and I want to share them with the kids. I also don't want to pretend to be less than I am in social situations. I'm just working on how to handle it.
If any of you have had similar experiences, please share.
